“Do I look fat in this?”
We women tend to ask questions we already know the answers to. And often it’s not necessarily for the answers we don’t know but for the ones we want to hear.
The feminine species can be a tricky sort.
Sometimes we play games. Sometimes we ask the right questions (and probably in just the right way, in just the worst scenarios) to get the right answers. And sometimes we like to nurture a little thing called insecurity.
A women’s level of self-confidence and esteem has an impact in just about every aspect of her life; her choice of clothing, her facial expressions, her job performance, her interaction with other women, her interactions with men, her sense of drive behind the wheel, her eating habits and possibly even her tweets. Yes, we women can gear a lot in life simply by how we view ourselves. The power of insecurity can be paralyzing, affecting the way we communicate, conduct ourselves and even have a domino affect on our progress in attaining a healthy weight.
If we haven’t been that girl asking those question, (which whohasn’t at some point) we’ve all known someone who’s questions and conversations are directed in such a way to edify themselves on a regular basis. Truly it’s a common mind game we like to throw on one another (and it’s exactly the kind of behavior women in my family have no problem calling each other out on) but it is often the root of insecurities we culture in our minds that wind up complicating so much more in life than is necessary, even possibly our weight.
It’s no shock to most of us that we are our worst critics, but in turn, we also are our worst enemies. Functioning in such thought patterns of self-doubt disables our ability to move forward, accomplish and achieve much of anything. Really spending the time we do analyzing, sorting and making a science out the simple task of “eating well” derails us into more emotional frustrations than our minds can contain. So tasks as simple as changing eating habits or being more active become like science formulas to us that we can’t unlock (and instead we buy into the health industry, who’s books, diets and programs feed everyone pretty much the same crap in just different forms. ) We can also allow such a self-image to discourage us, feeling that we aren’t good enough or of a certain status to be worthy of a healthy and happy life. This creates a sort of cynicism to the idea of being happy and healthy or ever getting to a weight you’re comfortable with, as if it’s unattainable and far-fetched, as if it’s a joke. If we were to view ourselves as deserving and capable of a healthy weight, the steps to getting there would probably look entirely different, as would our view of physical fitness and emotional well-being.
More than likely, nothing and no one effects our weight loss efforts more than our thoughts and level of self-confidence. Insecurity keeps us from doing what we love, dreaming of what is next and essentially living life. So with all these trickling effects of insecurity, could a healthy image of self play a key role in obtaining healthier habits, weight loss goals and overall holistic health? Now, why would I ask a question I already know the answer to?